http://butterflymommies.blogspot.com/ asked the question, What positive things have come from the loss of your baby(ies)? (To participate in the giveaway, visit their site to learn more!)
My first reaction to that question is," Are you serious, Nothing!" But then as I sat and thought about it, that isn't exactly true. While I do not and will never see my children's death as something remotely positive, I have experience some things over the last 7 months that I would never have gotten the chance to if my children had born and stayed with me on this Earth.
One being my faith. I have always been a believer but after Bryston died my faith was profoundly shaken. I questioned everything I had learned of the loving God I had always known. But now, I know without a doubt, there is a Heaven! How could there not be? I have felt Bryston with me and I have felt Gods love surrounding me in some of my darkest moments. I have witness signs from above too often to consider coincidental.
Two being my marriage. Ty and I have been married only a short 2 1/5 years and have experienced things that most couples could only imagine in their worst nightmares. And yet here we are, going strong, together. I think this grieving process has taught us so much about each other. While we grieve differently, we share the same sorrows. We are kinder and gentler with each other now than we were. We communicate in a whole new way now.
Third is my life views. I look at everything now in different way. I am kinder and quicker to empathise than I was before. I've realized that even on my worst day that someone else out there is going through something completely different and perhaps just as devastating. That the guy who cuts me off in traffic is not a jerk but maybe a panicked Daddy on the way to say his final goodbye to his baby, mother, or wife. Or that rude saleslady might not just be rude. She may have just learned that she has 6 months to live or that she's loosing her job and home. I'm no longer quick to judge. I of all people know that I have sinned and that my sins are no greater or less than yours. Sin is Sin.
So there you have it. I guess something postive did come out of this all after all. What do you think? What do you concieder if anything at all to be a postive from your loss?
My soul yearns, even faints,
for the courts of the LORD;
my heart and my flesh cry out
for the living God.
Even the sparrow has found a home,
and the swallow a nest for herself,
where she may have her young—
a place near your altar,
O LORD Almighty, my King and my God.
Blessed are those who dwell in your house;
they are ever praising you.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Posted by The Blue Sparrow at 6:52 PM